Doa Pernikahan :)

Ya Allah..
Limpahkanlah kami, cinta yang Kau jadikan
pengikat rindu Rasulullah dan Khadijah Al Kubro
yang Kau jadikan Mata Air Kasih Sayang
Imam Ali bin Abi Thalib dan Fatimah Azzahra
yang Kau jadikan penghias keluarga Nabi-Mu yang suci…

Ya Allah..
Cukupkanlah permohonan kami
dengan Ridho-Mu jadikanlah kami sepasang suami istri
yang saling mencintai dikala dekat, saling menjaga dikala jauh,
saling menghibur dikala duka, saling mengingatkan dikala bahagia,
saling mendoakan di dalam kebaikan dan ketaqwaan,
saling menyempurnakan dalam peribadatan…

Ya Allah..
Sempurnakanlah kebahagiaan kami..
dengan keturunan yang saleh dan shalihah serta
menjadikan pernikahan ini sebagai ibadah kepada-Mu
dan bukti cinta kami kepada sunnah keluarga Rasul-Mu…

Tidak ada yang lebih indah ketika Aku dan Dia jadi Kita ^^

5 Secrets to a Successful Long-Term Relationship

“Kunci sukses pernikahan bukanlah menemukan orang yang tepat, namun kuncinya adalah bagaimana belajar mencintai orang yang anda temukan, terus menerusss..!”

There have been a thousand or more articles written about how to have a successful long-term relationship or marriage, but none that seem to capture some of the core ingredients I’ve found important in relationships. So here’s the straight dope, from my experience…

Before I begin, however, it’s important to dispel a common relationship myth — relationships are (or should be) easy. That is simply not true. The grass always looks greener in other people’s lives, because few people share the truth of the amount of work that goes into relationships (hence why 50% of marriages end in divorce). Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work. If you can understand and accept the need for constant attention and work in your relationship, you’re started in the right direction.

1. Compromise

Relationships are about not only taking, but also giving. If you find yourself not giving very much, or feeling resentful of how much you give and how little you receive back, you may be in an unequal relationship where one side is taking more than they are giving.

For instance, couples sometimes mistakenly believe that “love” will help them deal with any issue that comes up, and that if the other person truly loved you, they would just do as you ask. But people are independent with their own unique needs and personalities. Just because we found someone we want to spend our lives with doesn’t mean we give up our own identity in the process.

2. Communicate

Relationships live and die not by the sword, but by the amount of discussion. If two people can’t find a way to openly and honestly communicate their needs and feelings to one another, the relationship doesn’t stand much of a chance long-term. Couples must find a way to communicate regularly, openly, and directly.

This doesn’t mean waiting for an argument to tell your significant other how much he bothers you with his throwing his clothes on the floor instead of the hamper. It means telling him when you feel the need to, and to do so in a manner that is respectful but assertive.

3. Choose Your Battles Carefully

After marriage or when two people move in together, couples tend to discover pretty much the same thing no matter who they are – that they are two different people and living together is harder than anyone ever told them. Love conquers a lot of things, but it is no match for living day-in and day-out with another human being (especially if you’ve spent years on your own).

Prepare yourself for this challenge by choosing what arguments you want to turn into a full blown battle. For instance, do you really want to start a fight over the toothpaste cap or how clean the shower is? Or would you rather reserve your energy for the discussions over finances, kids, and career paths (you know, the things that might really matter to a person). Too many couples fight and bicker over the dumbest things, especially when put into context of issues of true importance.

4. Don’t Hide Your Needs

Sometimes when we enter into a long-term relationship, we put ourselves second, behind the other person’s needs and desires. We might give up working to have a child, or agree to move to another city to help support our significant other’s career. And that’s fine, but you need to be realistic first with yourself about whether such things really matter to you or not. If they do, you need to find a way to communicate such needs with your partner, and compromise where possible.

Two people will rarely have exactly the same wants and desires out of life — that’s just a fantasy. Instead, expect that sometimes your two paths will diverge. Express your needs at those crucial moments, but always find a way to do so respectfully and with an open mind.

5. Don’t underestimate the importance of trust and honesty

Different people have different areas of concern, but almost everyone values trust and honesty from their partner above all. Why? Because your partner is the one person you want to be able to depend upon in the long-term, without question or doubt.

Little things where your significant other hasn’t been completely honest shouldn’t be blown out of proportion, because virtually everybody tells little white lies (especially when one is dating). Focus instead on the big things, like if they say they’re a lawyer and you discover they’ve never even passed the bar, or they say they like kids but later on insist on never having one.

…Cintailah pasangan anda, seperti anda ingin dicintai olehnya,
Setialah pada pasangan anda, seperti anda ingin mendapatkan kesetiannya…

Strong relationships are like a really good conversation with someone you admire, trust and cherish – they are ever-changing, engaging, wonderfully rewarding and sometimes surprising. But in order to continue the conversation because you want to see what the person has to say next, you have to respect your significant other’s opinion even when you disagree with it.

And just like a good conversation, you need to work on keeping your end up too. You need to show attention and nurture the relationship constantly, just as you would nurture anything you value in life. You don’t just “get married” and that’s the end of it. Indeed, marriage is just the beginning of a long process of learning to openly and honestly communicate with another person in a respectful and caring manner.

If you’re up for it and follow these tips, you’ll be on a road to having a more successful relationship or marriage. But remember — it takes two to tango. Share these with your significant other or spouse and use it as an opportunity to begin the conversation of your life 🙂

inspired by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.


22 Responses to “Doa Pernikahan :)”

  1. Latip Says:

    Cocok nih buat yang mau nikah
    Salam kenal

  2. aRuL Says:

    kapan nikah? 😀

  3. girly Says:

    ciee…mas pinky…
    cuit cuit…. 😀

  4. paksi Says:

    thanks doanya.. 🙂
    buat aku kan..? hehe

  5. titosuharto Says:

    Keren mas,,,
    memang seharusnya kita bagitu….

    Salam sukses,,,

  6. bhagas Says:

    ehm..yg mau nikah,hehe…

    saya tunggu undangannya mas….:D

  7. agung! Says:

    ehm…. hihihihi….

    sepertinya kok tidak lama lagi… 😀

  8. indrapamungkas Says:

    EH pink, mau nikah???
    ck ckc kck…..lulus cum lot langsung kawin, eh nikah reeekkk.. .

  9. rumahfrandi Says:

    eh…ga kulonuwun dulu ama yg lebih tua, dah mo nikah 😀
    hehe…becanda kok… Aku amini deh do’anya. Moga ketularan barokahnya 🙂

  10. pinkyangga Says:

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